Saturday, July 31, 2010

Do you have to have a parent/gaurdian to get on birth control?

I was just wondering b/c my aunt wants to take me. Do you have to have a parent/gaurdian to get on birth control?
All I know is that you can get free condoms at the health department at least in Virginia) and you don't have to go with a guardian. Even if you get some birth control method (like the pills or the shot) you should still use a condom as you don't want to get an STD.Do you have to have a parent/gaurdian to get on birth control?
I don't think you need a parent. I went to Planned Parenthood when I was 14. No questions asked. I am glad that you are thinking ahead.Good Job
No u don't need a parent or guardian to get birth control all u do is fill sum papers out n that's it n ask 4 the plan b pill
depends on the state, if your aunt is taking you, then you just say she is your guardian. But I think it would be wise to let your mom know so that it can be covered under the insurance. They are more reasons than to avoid unwanted pg by taking the pill. It helps regulate your cycles, the cramps/tension is lessened, keeps hormones in check etc. Give her those reasons if she wants to know why you want to get on it.
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  • Is it possible to love your parent, but not like them as a person?

    I admit I really don't like my mother as a person because I find her to be two-faced and calculating. (yes I have told her this). To be honest I don't even trust her. She'll smile so sweetly in your face only then to brutally gossip about you. This is why I really don't talk a her that much. Barely on important holidays. I'm in my late 20's by the way.Is it possible to love your parent, but not like them as a person?
    Yes. I love my mom a lot, but I don't like her at all half the time.Is it possible to love your parent, but not like them as a person?
    I would say: Absolutely yes!





    I love my brother because he is my brother. But at the sametime i absolutely hate him. He has no ethics, he steals, doesn't work and lives off my parents and unemployment. He doesn't even try to find work. Instead he broke into my home and robbed me, he steals from my parents, my cosuins home and we have even caught him stealing from my 7 years wallet. How can you like someone like that?





    Me on the other hand moved at 21 had a baby at 22, graduated college at 24 and worked for the same compnay moving up for the past 6 years. I'm 29 years old now and i could never imagine spending my life like my brother.
    thanks for describing my mother to a tee





    I have put up parameters to speak to my mother due to the vicious gossip channels she has created





    we only speak of my son, i do not ask for information and do not give any to her


    I only tell her of positive things in my life


    she dosn't like it but, it stops the gossip
    Let me answer it this way, Is it possible to like your parents and not love them? It's family, I love my mom and all my sibilings but most days I do not like them at all...... But they are family and they will alawsy be there when you need someone to have your back, wether you like them or not!
    Definitely- I always told my mother that- In fact at your age, I wrote her a letter and told her that. But now that we are a lot older, I see why she was the way she was and now I love and like her. Now my sisters and brothers, that's a different question!
    You bet. Loving someone doesn't necessarily mean to have to like them or their actions. I love my kids dearly but quite often do not like their actions. My mother in law on the other hand, not even sure I love her..... :0 She can be quite mean in her words to my kids.
    Based on your mom's personality, I'd say yes it's possible to love your parent but not like them.





    My mother in law's brother walked out on his wife and kids 7 years ago. She still loves him, but she does not like him at all right now.
    Yea it is, its like that in my family. Because you know shes family, you love her, but because of her behavior, you don't like her.
    Good on you for calling her out on it to her face. Maybe she'll take the hint. That's a sad situation but totally possible.
    Oh wow , I know exactly what you're saying ( my mom acts like that too) I can't stand to be around her most of the time , but I still love her.
    Yes, it sure is.

    Can both my parents apply for a parent plus loan?

    They are divorced and I know one will get denied for sure...But im kinda hopin on my mom to get approved again this year...any suggestions? I need some money!Can both my parents apply for a parent plus loan?
    do FASFA





    and then have your mom get another loan, and have your dad apply to.





    Also, get a job, you are in college this is your time to be independent.

    What does it say about a parent that thinks one speech from Obama will the override the beliefs they taught?

    And how will this be harmful:





    http://www.ed.gov/admins/lead/academic/b鈥?/a>What does it say about a parent that thinks one speech from Obama will the override the beliefs they taught?
    Because they fear anything Obama does and act like Obama is the First one to ever do anything like this.





    Bush was touring schools on Sept 11 2001 doing the very same thing.





    And when ever they cry over something that evey other president has done before, Including their own side, it shows that they are not really following the issues, but they are simply looking for ways to drum up fear.What does it say about a parent that thinks one speech from Obama will the override the beliefs they taught?
    Conservatives are scare that all the values they taught their kids would be compromised by Obama. Values like white supremacy, bigotry, homophobia, xenophobia, greed, capitalism, ego-centrism etc... etc..


    What do you think !? Is it fair that after all the work they put in to forming a future fascist republican christian, that it all goes to waste due to their exposure to reason? I think we both know the answer to that.





    Their only hope is to get a double dose of Fox New's hate, spin and smear.
    One speech leads to another. This guy has cartoons and his face is every where. just look around yahoo for starters.





    Tell me what this has to do with education??


    鈥?Why is it important that we listen to the president and other elected officials, like the mayor, senators, members of congress, or the governor? Why is what they say important?
    It's not just the speech itself that us good parents are worried about. It's the liberal teachers arranging their classroom schedules so that they can use the speach anytime they can in their teachings. The reach is way past the home and into school where children spend the majority of their waking hours.
    A National Socialist by any other name is still a national socialist.





    I don't want a national socialist teaching my kids and even trying to brainwash them. The point is the Dims aka National Socialists have been using school for decades to wire the neurological pathways before they are fully wired. It has nothing to do with overriding. My problem is the spirit of intent.
    I'm sure Hitler said the same thing.





    Why is he doing it again? Anyone?





    While I do not think he will ';override'; or indoctrinate my child, I am curious as to why he is doing it and why no one can answer that.





    Also the ';How can I help my President';? What if Bush did that, I am sure you would be supporting it, correct?
    Well it says that the parent lacks the confidence to about being the leading influence in their child's life. I don't care what kind of propaganda and lies Obama plans to give them, I would be ready to set the record straight.
    well maybe the students (high school/college students) will come up with their own beliefs. Parents teach the values they think are important but in the long run people usually pick/change their values by themselves when they get older.
    So you wouldn't mind if I went to all the schools and preached just one sermon about God? And if one speech won't be effective why do it at all? Do you only support this, because you are a fan of this dictator?
    bc obama made adults beleive his lies and children absorb info much easier than adults and are much more gullible.


    and why is obama talking to kids 4-13 years old instead of fixing the country as he says he is.
    Did some idiot actually complain about Obama wanting to give a speech encouraging students to work hard and excel? Would they be ok with him just stopping by to read ';My Pet Goat?';
    I think that it says that Americans are serious about the futures of their children. Much more than the administration and the school system.
    Good parents know that the values they teach have been learned by their kids.





    Besides, there's nothing sinister in this Obama speech -- what parents don't want their kids to stay in school?
    The indoctrination has already begun but this will help create a strong 'Obama Youth' program. When we have the children watching the parents then we can really create change
    I find this strangely disturbing on so many levels.
    That they love their children and are concerned about their well being.
    They are like headless chickens in panic mode.
    I am willing to bet he will mention something political, any takers?
    It was a talking point on Glenn Beck today.
    Tell that to Germans.

    What happened to being a responsible parent?

    Now, I'd like some serious answers from parents here:





    Are you responsible for your children?





    I just read this story on Yahoo, which basically says these parents got together and decided to sue Kellogg and Nickelodeon. for marketing non-nutritious products to children. What would possibly posess someone to do that? Couldn't you just...... not buy your kids that cereal? What happened to responsibility? I'm not that old, but if my parents didn't want me to have something, I.. wouldn't get it! If I wanted ice cream after dinner, and I didn't eat my dinner, voila! I didn't get ice cream after dinner.





    It sickens me how we have to sue and blame everyone for what should be our responsiblity. I'm not a parent, so maybe I'm way off the deep end here, but parents, lets hear your take.





    http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070614/ap_o鈥?/a>What happened to being a responsible parent?
    That's really disgusting. Pass the buck much?? Like you, I was denied any treats unless the veggies were consumed first(and my daughter lives by that rule as well). Parents should be responsible for the food choices for their children. Suing for marketing to children? Yeah, I give my 3 year old some money and send her into the store for groceries, it's so hard for her to pass up the brightly colored boxes. Give me a ******* break.What happened to being a responsible parent?
    To all the whiners who think that the big bad companies are taking over the minds of children, What did you eat for breakfast as a child? You ate what your parents gave you! If you ate FruitLoops for breakfast, are you a 500 pound whale today? If so, it's your fault for not exercising. I ate all those cereals as a child, and I'm thin. Those cereals are fortified with vitamins and calcium, so they're not as unhealthy as people think. I'm sick and tired of everybody in this country playing the blame game. If your child eats McDonalds for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, it's YOUR FAULT!!!
    They shouldn't buy the stuff for the kids, you're right. But, they are trying to market their unhealthy products to them. They shouldn't be marketing it to children, and parents shouldn't be buying it for children. However, I don't think those sets of parents should be the ones getting the money. All of our children watch Nickelodean and see Frosted Flake commercials. We don't get any money out of it and niether should they. It's life and if they do like it they should get off their butts and take thier kids out to exercise instead of watching tv. Maybe there wieght problems are caused by lack of exercise also. If they really think it's wrong they should complain to a congress man about unhealthy snacks being advertised on children's television programs. I hope they don't win that case.
    you are so right my son is six and i don't buy him anything i don't want him to have... now let's be serious they bought serious becuase they were too lazy to get up and cook breakfast themselves and now they want to sue a company becuase they fed their kids the products they bought that is outrageous maybe i should sue myself for buying it ha ha
    I agree with you completely. We have a choice on what we buy and feed our children. It's not the companies fault.





    I think people just want to sue everyone about everything these days. It's a scapegoat for them so that they dont' have to take responsiblity for giving their children bad things. It's like the people who wanted to sue McD's for them being fat. Geez...





    Oh and as for the person who said its' hard to tell a child no... um you're the adult, you can tell them no. That's another problem we have, parents who can't tell their children no.
    without going to the link here is my thoughts:





    Media does a great job of throwing things in your face that you could really give a rats behind about. But what about the kids?


    Brats dolls for example: You want your kid to be a brat? Or basically what the doll intends, a mall rat? Some of the movies that are aimed towards little kids: Flika, the male version of the Olsen twins, anything Disney, Nickelodeon... etc etc. (The only one I know of so far that doesnt have this constantly is any public broadcasting shows that are aimed at kids).





    Any way, I think what the parents are trying to say or do is that the television ad and show portray HEY! this is great for your kids to watch! But parents that are concerned about how their kids act in public, how they play act and what they play act is basically reinforced by the electronic babysitter. And if those shows go against the grain of the parents, of course its going to get them fired up.


    Oh ya, the point about the shows like disneys and flicka. Ah... Flika, the beautiful story of a bratty little girl that just get her poor ranch hand working family to see things her way, even though her way could destroy their way of living... So what does she do? What every Disney kid does!, ignores her parents ruling and sneaks, steals, lies, and corrupts other people/things to get the results that they want! And isn't that what we want from our kids? I mean geez, if Mom and Dad wont budge to buy you that toy, just steal it! Or start putting some money aside and buy it and just hide it from your parents! After all, its the American way! Keep the country in the dark until you feel they are ready to deal with it, after you have had some time to shave the bad parts off and feel that you have a cleaner presentation to show them so they'll just accept it.


    I agree however, that the point is for the parents to be the moderators in this life. They should be able to say, no, this isnt for you/us. But if you just want you kid to sit for a minute and television does that so easily, its disturbing to see what is supposed to be aimed at kids is full of underlying encouragement about decipt, lies, and theft all towards authority.





    As far as the obesity issue regarding snacks aimed at 12 years or younger kids, same thing. Yes parents are the road block but how many times you want to see a dorky cartoon guy boppinbg around saying HEY KIDS MY FOOD ROCKS, TELL MOM TO BUY SOME! and its all crap. Kids don't go hmmm... wonder how much whole grain is in this. So you say no and you are now conflicting with your child. I can so understand why this group did this. Plus think of this, Kellog was so certain it was going to lose that they negotiated outside of court and revamped their products for they are the #1 seller of junk food and cereals for kids! Think that maybe they need the kids less than 12? This negotiation proves that they do. Otherwise they would have laughed it off and said go ahead, give it your best shot.





    so any way, as most of us have done (gone off topic) The bottom line as repeated so well by others, be the parent, not the friend and take over your home once again and stop blaming others for the disasters that come from ignoring them.





    One Last thought LOL: It HAS to be that parents must be responsible enough. The proof is in your grocery isle. What do you see more of, foods that are healthy or foods that aren't? If people increased their purchases on the food that was good for them and left the ones that aren't, that would force the store to accommodate the demand. Why have one isle dedicated to soda if it could be replaced to meet the demand of (product type)? And soda sales dropped? Just a thought.





    Very interesting topic....


    Something you take for granted I guess without much thought.


    Good Job!
    I totally agree with you. I am a mother of 4 . Yes you want maybe healthier choices for your kids but you are the one that goes into the grocery store and lets little tommy through a temper tamper till he gets the sugar cereal. Parents need to step up to the plate and take actions for thier children instead of suing companies. How do you teach your children about choices in life if you just eleimate choices.


    I might agree with maybe not putting the favorite types of toys in these kinda of cereals but the parents should be making the final choice bottom line. So who is to blame , not the company the parents are.


    Also this does is make our food prices go up because some one had to sit around and come up with a scheme to get rich fast because they didnt want responsibility .
    Being responsible for your actions went out the window when frivolous lawsuits became all the rage.





    You are not off the deep end at all. I've been Reading alot of Y!A posts today about how upset people are over this whole Kellogg's thing. So many parents are posting about how society is ready to blame everyone but themselves for childhood obesity. Yes, the finger can be pointed at snack food producers and Fast Food chains, but they don't tie you up in a chair and force feed you their product. Responsibility does lie ultimately with the parents, but what causes the parents to behave this way? Laziness? Families with both parents working and no time to cook? Single parent families with the same issue?





    I was watching Dr. Phil today, and the guests were both morbidly obese. Their excuse was that they can't afford to purchase the healthy, good for you foods. A nutritionist guest on the show said he'd crunched the numbers, and found that one guest was spending $32 PER DAY on food for himself alone. That's $224 a week for one person. I spend $140 per week on a family of 4. The guest doctor said that if they followed on of Dr. Phils plans, it would cost them a whopping $10 per day and they'd be able to eat right.





    I went totally off topic there, and I apologize Yes, IMO parents should be the ones responsible for their child's eating habits.
    I couldn't agree more. True-Blue you and I both , as cops, see the end result of this too many times. When kids start getting into trouble at a younger age and their parents, instead of correcting them, defends them no matter how wrong they may be. Of course any parent should stand by their kids; but not to the point of making them think that no matter what they do it is OK, mommy and daddy will get you out of it. The ';my baby does no wrong'; attitude. These are usually the kids that will end up in prison or dead when they grow up.





    Some parents seem to more interested in being a ';friend'; to their child than a disciplinarian. Of course you need to be on a friendly basis with your children; but they have enough ';friends';, they need someone to guide them and teach them right from wrong and someone that they can look up to and respect as a responsible example. One should not be afraid to punish or discipline their children. A good parent, in my opinion, rewards and praises their children when they do good or at least does the best that the child can do, but punishes bad behavior.





    We should not expect the educational system to fully educate, discipline, or raise our children. That is our job as parents. Some seem to get angry with everyone but themselves when their kids do not turn out so good. Here in the United States of the Offended, everyone wants to be portrayed as a victim and blame everyone but themselves when things turn out badly.





    True-Blue, I know I got off the subject of the particular lawsuit you were asking about, but I took this opportunity to express my own opinion of the subject matter. If I failed to answer your question directly, I apologize
    I'm only 20 and I make sure my kids eat what they need before eating junk food. I make a lot of the food we eat from scratch. And for snacks they get fruit and yogurt. Stuff they need. If we do get fast food we get them the apple dippers and stuff like that but they don't get the Carmel. When they are old enough to buy their own food they can decide what to eat. But my kids are only 1 and 2. So for right now I want them to learn to eat healthy and stay healthy.
    How ridiculous. Litigation these days seems to be the way for those who don't have the ability to make a decision on their own. It's just plain lazy to let your kids do what they like and then sue someone later when things don't turn out right, or the way you want.


    If you child wants something unhealthy then just say NO!





    Companies get away with marketing unhealthy products because there is a MARKET for them. Tell your kids ';NO';, and if enough people do it, then the demand for these products will fall off. No company will market something that is unprofitable.


    Take away the market for these things.





    Lots of the messages here have supported just saying 'NO' to your children, and a few sufggested sending kids to bed if they don't eat their proper meals etc. Good on them!!!


    My 3 boys (aged 21/19/17) have no problems with the way they were brought up. They had the occasional treat (YES, including McDonalds), but they also played a lot of sport, and were encouraged to exercise.


    Some parents are just so weak!
    here's the thing, america doesnt want to take responsibility for its actions because america as a whole doesn't have much culture except to be a superpower, number 1 at everything. its hard to be number 1 so they try everything they can, and when it turns out that its bad for them, it wasnt there fault for taking it, it was whoever made it and offered it to them.





    it seems like a free nation wasn't meant to work with a super ego.
    I agree with you 100% . I have two kids, It's my responisibility to decide what they can and can't eat. I do the grocery shopping and I cook the meals, not Kellogg and Nickeldodeon.





    It's not like these companies were holding a gun to their heads and forcing them to buy that crap.





    Parents these days need to grow up, take responsibility for their own action and quit trying to blame others for their bad decisions!! :[
    I'm not a parent either, but I think it does show how people are refusing to take responsibility for themselves. It seems that people are actually getting dumber despite obtaining higher educational degrees.





    Where has all the common sense gone?





    Reminds me of the McDonald's coffee being to hot. Come on, give me a break.





    Love Forever %26amp; Always,


    Snazzlefrazz
    spare the rod, spoil the child, its a generational thing.


    ...and the government has its eye on you if you should! seriously





    ... and drugs has its toll.
    You are absolutely right. It's just as ridiculous as the obese adults suing fast-food restaurants because they gained weight. I have a weight problem myself, but I KNOW that no one was holding a gun to my head all the times I went through that McDonald's drive-up. It's totally my own fault, and I'm the only one who can fix it. But truthfully, I blame the lawyers and insurance companies in this country for people's desire to place blame on everyone else. Those million-dollar lawsuits are just get-rich-quick schemes for irresponsible people.
    Don't feel sorry for companies that use ambush marketing techniques and advertise a product with 40% sugar as healthy. They employ psychologists to assist in directing their sales pitch at children , and then use them as a weapon to convince parents to buy their products. As bad as cigarette companies.
    WHATEVER.I can't believe what I just read.Cereal is F ING cereal.Eat a fuking banana if you want to get healthy.Nobody in my family is overweight(well maybe me about 10 pounds too much)BUT anyways I make my child eat healthy but if they want a bowl of cereal I'm not gonna sue over.For cryin out loud,how ridiculous.
    I agree with you totally. I am a parent of 3 and I don't buy my kids everything they want. I have bought sugared cereal for them and for myself but we don't eat it for every meal and snack all day long. I don't see that one bowl of cereal is going to make that much difference if the person is eating nutritious foods throughout the day. I think people have gotten ';sue crazy.'; It's like the woman who sued McDonald's because her coffee was too hot. Or the guy who sued Winnebago because it wrecked when he put it on cruise control and then went in the back for something. People don't seem to have any common sense anymore.
    Its not just the parents....its everyone. We are becoming a society of people who refuse to take any responsibility for our own actions. It like the lady who sued McDonalds for the coffee being hot when she spilled it....DUH...it coffee...that same woman probly would have cussed up a storm if the coffe wouldn't have been hot. And what is really bad, is the courts are allowing it....they are allowing these people to win, instead of making them use their own common sense....Just like you said, if you don't want something, don't buy it....that goes for food, candy, cloths that are skimpy, whatever. It like parents blameing tv and music for the vilolence we see in kids...it not that, its the fact that many people allow their kids to be raised by the tv instead of being parents. We as a socitey just have to step up and take care of ourselves and stop expecting everyone to do that for us.
    I feel the same way as you do. Probably because I was raised the same.Its like when a parent is late picking up her kid from school and gets all pissed off at the school staff because nobody was there to watch her kid. I had a big fight with with an ex neighbor of mine because she thought if she got her nails done and her kid was alone after school, she figured SOMEBODY would have to stay late and wait with her kid. Well, that wasn't the way it worked out and she even wrote a letter to the news paper ranting about it and was made a fool by all the feed back. I dont get it. Cravzy.
    I am a parent, and what I say goes. If I tell my kids no... it's ';yes mom'; or off to bed!





    I think people are trying anything to get free money now-a-days. Why not sue the big companies? I think that it is awful because they didn't do anything wrong. Marketing to kids is awesome to me. I always buy my kids a treat from the store and I would rather it be cereal or yogurt or graham crackers... than ice cream, cookies and candy. If the kids think that cereal is a treat, that's fine with me. One bowl a day for breakfast is not unhealthy. If you eat too much of anything it is unhealthy.





    Parents like that make me sick.
    I completely agree. The problem is that parents have become AFRAID of their kids. Afraid to say no, afraid to get mad at them This gives the control to the kids. But how can we expect 6 year olds to make the right choices whether it be behaviourally, nutritionally and later when it ocme s to sexual matters or things like drinking and drugs.





    I'm-a tell you. I adore my girls but I train them (yes, train-it's okay to use that word) that I am the boss, I make most decisions, and they will fall in. Sounds harsher that what it is, but that's the gist.
    its a stupid, litigious society we live in. its MY responsibility to insure my children eat properly and I control the TV. i let my kids watch TV and play video games but i will also tell them enough and go outside. they are pretty good about it themselves as they are athletic and won't sit around all day vegging out. i think parents are just getting lazy
    It's great that the food got a little healthier, BUT....





    Where do we stop? If we don't like something as trivial as cereal, shouldn't we just buy something else? AFAIK, this is a free country and companies should be free to make what they want (within laws).





    Plus, adults eat that too.. not just kids..
    Responsibility? If someone has money in his pockets, it's our responsibility to get that money OUT of his pockets! *laughter* THIS may be what they are thinking, man. They force the company to produce tasteless cereal, and the rest of the WORLD must suffer for their incompetance. They could do us ALL a favor and buy some of that crunchy tasteless cereal for their kids and leave the rest of us to eat our Captain Crunchberries on our own!
    Again, Parents need to be PARENTS and stop trying to be friends with their kids. I love it when a friend or someone will say well, I couldn't get it away from her or she wouldn't let me. She's two, right. Did she overpower you? Use her super powers ? Vulcan mind meld? Children will forgive you even if they don't like your decision. Make sure you explain your reasons for your decision and leave it at that. Be a parent!
    Personal responsibility and corporate indemnity are not mutally exclusive. These parents have every right to sue without giving up thier claim to responsibility for thier children, because the actions of the corporations have made thier tasks as parents more difficult. You say they shouldn't buy thier children certain products, but the children continue to want these prodicts because they are being marketed to by the corporations in question. This makes the parents' jobs inifinitely more difficult. I don't know if you've ever tried to tell a child no, but it's a herculean task at it's easist. The actions of these companies make it even more so, hence thier culpability, exclusive of the parents' actions.
    You've got it all wrong. These are responsible parents who care what all children eat, not just their own. They sued at least in part because the ';junk-food'; products were being marketed to be eaten as meals as much as snacks.





    A few treats won't hurt anyone, but if a child has Fruit Loops for breakfast, a Ring-Ding for lunch, and snacks enough to suppress the appetite for supper, the result is a malnourished, overweight child in a pre-diabetic state. It is definitely in the public interest that food marketing not encourage this behavior.

    Iowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?

    The mother is awarded custody of the children. At what age can the child decide to reside with the fatherIowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?
    A Child's Choice: What Is The Right Age For A Child To Choose Which Parent To Live With?


    http://previews.tinyurl.com/A-Childs-Cho鈥?/a>


    http://cabaraoke.newsvine.com/_news/2008鈥?/a>





    They can be told that the children need to remain in the home and each parent can live there for three weeks, than switch. Once a week the parent not in residence takes the children out to dinner. While in the home, the parent does not date or have overnight guests, other than relatives.





    On the off weeks, the parent rents a room, stays with relatives or friends, or they can split the cost of a one bedroom apartment that they share. The priority here is the children not having their lives disrupted by the choices of the parents. The parents' lives are equally disrupted and they split the cost of being in the home. If child support is ordered, both parents can pay into a trust fund that pays out to cover the children鈥檚 expenses. Anything over and above those expenses remains there to collect interest and goes toward a college education.





    When the children are grown, and completely out of the home, than the property can be sold or whatever the parents want to do with it.





    This is called Bird Nest Custody. The children remain in the nest and the bird take turns being there.





    http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoiceIowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?
    You need to talk to legal aid and/or an attorney about this. It is better to get information from a source who is actually there, knows the state law and your specific case and can advise you accordingly.
    In most areas the judge will consider where the child wants to live at the age of 12. That doesn't mean it's completely up to the child though. The judge will look at the entire picture.

    If one parent has sole custody, & the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?

    if one parent gets sole custody of the child in the divorce %26amp; the other has supervised visits only (all due to a drug problem) and the parents end up getting back together (after the drug abuser is in recovery %26amp; meeting the terms of visitation) would it change the terms of custody at all? (in oregon, if that matters).





    would it make any difference to custody if they were (A) together but not married nor living together (B) living together but NOT married (C) re-married?If one parent has sole custody, %26amp; the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?
    No. In order to change that, you will need to appear both in court again. Only a Judge can change that ruling.If one parent has sole custody, %26amp; the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?
    I'm not a professional in that area but I would think that if they were just together or even just living together that the custody would not change however if the couple got re-married than more than likely the custody terms would change.
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  • Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?

    I think its the hardest thing ive ever done and he is now 13 months and im still waiting for the day i can relax and just enjoy him. He is unwell at the moment and i really hate to see him this way it just breaks my heart. I also think having kids puts a huge stress on your relationships. Please tell me im not alone?Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?
    yes and no... i guess yes because i always had a way with kids... they always loved me and i could get them from tantrum to laughing and happy and distracted in 2 seconds... so with my own i thought id be the best mommy in the world and he would never be upset or have tantrums.. HA!!! I was so wrong. if anything, he knows me better than anyone and knows how i will react and tests me with so many different things...





    ive found myself losing my patience with him and was like OMG what am i doing?!!? but its hard... especially when they try to play in the toilet or stick his fingers in the electrical socket and when i pull him away or tap his hand away from it, he LAUGHS at me and goes back to do it again... hes 16 months old and in the ER about 5 times now bc of all the accidents and scares hes given me!!!





    so yes its harder. plus i didnt expect to be a SAHM so long, and not ever having a break from him makes it hard to notice the small things sometimes - but i've really been consciously reminding myself how fast he grows.. and i think by the month tho it gets a little more fun and a little less hard. the 2nd year, to me, is the hardest. but you'll see in a couple months, it'll get more fun and you'll start to enjoy it more i hope!!





    i hope your little one feels better!! i hate when theyre sick too because they cant tell you whats wrong! try giving him some tylenol. and yes, my husband and i never had that 'alone/ honeymoon' time ... dylan came way too fast! and he sleeps in our bed, (or the lack thereof because he DOESNT sleep lol)... but definitely a good form of birth control! :)





    you'll be okay. just enjoy it!! listen to there goes my life.. its by phil vassar i think... and listen to terri clark she didnt have time :)Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?
    You are so not alone, I have a 4m old and a 19m old and i def have days were i look at at myself and wonder ';What was i thinking'; ';How am I supposed to be a mom';. The stress and low points just seem to disappear when your kids face lights up when they see you or they laugh so hard that you have no choice but to laugh along. There is no JOB like being a mom But id chose being a mom over any other job a hundred times over. As for your relationship it can suffer sometimes just try to take time away from being a mom for just a moment whenever possible and just focus on you and your partner go out for a nice dinner and talk about anything OTHER than your baby and try to remember what brought you two together in the beginning. don't stress to much one day you will wake up and realize that every thing has fallen in to place.
    Actually being a parent is easier than i thought it was gonna be, but i have a fairly easy laid back lil guy, who has done everything early lol (he's 15 months old but acts more like he's 3).





    Course some days are harder than others (like a few days ago when he was in alotta pain cuz he was teething)





    I'm sure though once my twin boys are born (I'm 24 weeks, 5 days pregnant right now, Sept. 21st), things will prolly get harder, but yea i really though being a parent would be alot tougher than it is, not saying it's not tough, it's just not as tough as i thought it would be.





    Hope this helps, :D.





    I think it def. can put alotta stress on relationships, but so far it's made my boyfriend and i alot closer, he's a wonderful daddy, and does as much as he can to help me out.
    Having my daughter has come with a lot of sacrifices but I do not have any regrets. She puts a smile on my face everyday and makes it worthwhile. Actually, I look back and wonder what I did with all that ';free time'; I no longer have! I wouldn't say it is harder than what I thought...I think it is more enjoyable than I thought. It really filled a void I never knew I had.





    There are a lot of challenges being a parent. I think every parent needs to maintain different aspects of their lives by setting aside: parent time, adult time, alone time, couple time and so on. If not it is easy to loose yourself and become miserable.





    It definitely gets easier the older they get. Especially if you keep your child on a strict routine. Having a good support system is really nice, too.
    I think it changes relationships BIG TIME. I expected my husband to be a certain kind of father, especially after being around my father in law so much. He was great with the kids, but didn't help me do anything like changing diapers, feeding, bathing, etc. He just plays with them. I was very disappointed for a long time. I also didn't expect for him to be..... so unsupportive with some things. His attitude is ';you stay home all day long, it should be easy';. It's very upsetting and hurt full to know the man you've loved for so many years really thinks I just sit at home playing with the 2 kids and it's so easy.





    It does get easier, I promise. Once he starts really talking and interacting with you, it's a lot of fun. Ethan is 2 1/2 now and makes me laugh so many times a day. Sophie is almost 11 months and even she's getting to be more fun. Just hang in there. Start finding some moms in your area you can talk/hang out with. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten on here and gotten the support and the advice and the motivation I've needed to keep going. Email me anytime you need to talk, vent, or need that extra encouragement!
    Its hard, v hard. There is not a moments rest with our 13 month old. Something we didnt bank on was clashing with our partner over the correct way to bring her up. We argue right down to what food we give the baby. I want ultra healthy everything, and my partner likes to give her things she likes. I only realise now how different we are in what we want for our children even though we seemed well suited before she arrived. But she is my little girl, and I will have to struggle through it. I agree there is tremendous strain on a relationship.
    You are not alone. I had the worse pregnancy but it was nothing until my daughter arrived. It's difficult but it's best to take one day at a time and take lot of photos so you can remember him the way he was.
    Yes it is harder than i expected but i knew it wasnt going to be a breeze! i still enjoy my son even though he needs all the attention i can give him and i just relax when hes sleeping*
    I'm not a parent (child-free by choice) but my sister-in-law had two babies within 14 months of each other and gets stressed out a lot.
    Its the hardest task Ive ever taken on. But its also the most rewarding.

    What's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?

    make time for yourself. If your children are young sent them to a day care a few times a week. That will give you some time to yourself. If that's not possible, lock yourself in the bathroom and take a bubble bath.What's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?
    For yourselves work for top rated companies whose management treat staff with respect and professionally. If possible arrange for working flexible hours or work one day a week at home. This ways you can be less stressful and have more time with you children. What's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?
    Protected sex.
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    Decide that you WANT to enjoy your children. I'm not saying that you don't, but it is easy to get wrapped up in the pressures of job, personal finances, etc., that we sometimes forget what is really important. It will take a conscious effort on your part. You will miss the chaos someday.





    First of all, when you leave work.......leave work. Don't be worried about projects you have to do at work once you get home. Worrying about downsizing and layoffs won't prevent them from happening, but it will prevent you from enjoying your life. You were looking for a job when you found the one you have.





    Try to plan out in advance what meals you'll be serving for dinner. If possible, cook a little extra on the weekends for the freezer so that you have just a little preparation for dinner on busy nights. There's also nothing wrong with having canned soup and crackers for dinner sometimes. There's also nothing wrong with having a bowl of cereal and some fruit for dinner, either. Leave the dishes until they've went to bed.





    Talk to your kids about their day; help with their homework. Leave the housework. Have a relaxing evening with the kids and concentrate on them. Put them to bed around 8:30 or 9:00 (no exceptions). If you've spent most of the evening with them, they most likely won't be making excuses to stay up later (wanting to spend some time with you). After they go to bed, pick up for an hour--you will get more done in this hour than in 3 hours trying to split the time with the kids; take a shower; read or watch some tv until your bedtime.





    In the mornings, get up a little before the kids and shower and get ready before waking them up. On the weekends, I make extra pancakes and store in the freezer between pieces of wax paper and microwave for a quick breakfast.....they taste just a good and it saves a lot of time.





    If you are feeling particularly stressed, tell the kids that you aren't feeling well and go lay down on your bed in the silence of your room for an hour. You will feel refreshed when you emerge. The kids will be okay eating a snack and watching some tv.





    Do your bill paying on your lunch break so that you don't have to do it at home.





    Keep a calendar with the kids activities written on it so that you don't lose track. It's okay to make a plan with another parent that you trust to do some carpooling so that you aren't constantly picking up a child from practice.
    Get a baby sitter, go out (for yourself) do what you want to do,for about an hour,or take a long bubble bath,(if there's a husband in the home) give the kids to him and leave,go for a long drive,to the store, window shop,walk around in the mall, get you something to eat, sit down relax,walk and see the all the Christmas lights,go to a park watch the boats go down the river,be somewhere by yourself(quiet time)pray to God to relieve your stress and be able to cope with your loving children that God saw fit to give you,just give yourself your deserved time alone, so you can enjoy your life the way God wants you to! Merry Christmas %26amp; aHappy New Year!But alcohol won't fix anything it usually messes it up!
    Have them adopted.
    time out for yourself can any one you know look after your kids while you have a couple of days to your self.%26lt;sounds good doesnt it %26gt;
    try these very helpful tips about handling stress at work:





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    I agree with the first answer - alcohol does it for me!
    Having PROPER AFFORDABLE childcare. All childcare these days are so expensive. I've looked into it so many times and it's not worth me working AND paying for childcare. All my salary would just go onto the childcare.





    Companies having creche facilities or being more parent-child friendly would be really beneficial. Being able to work around school hours. Work from home at other times.





    Most of that would take a huge weight off my shoulders and I would be far less stressed
    Time to yourself is the most important thing.. do something that yoy enjoy.
    Take a ';mental health'; day off with kids in school and sleep in, go on a walk and just relax.





    Trade babysitting with a friend. One night of peace is good even if you have to trade it in for another night of loud noise.





    Create a sanctuary in your bedroom. Buy nice bedding, nice candles, curtains and keep it clean. That way you can always feel like you are walking into a hotel room.





    Invest in some ear plugs and take a ';quiet bath'; with epsom salts. Play soothing music to drown out your family.





    Have grandma watch the kids while you and your husband or partner have a night on the town. Get a hotel room and go see a movie in the city. Get some books are read during your down time.





    Start a gratitude journal and make yourself sit down and write in in for 15 min each day. If you have nothing to write then sit in your chair in silence





    Get audio books for the car. everyone has to be quiet while the story is playing.
    when will people realise that children are demanding because they are meant to be so, they need the whys of the world and physical activity not tio mention the loving guidance of their parents, the one safe place children are *supposed* to have. Yet they are slammed from breakfast club to school to afterschool club and then when their over-worked under-paid parents are so mentally tired they think their kids should be nice and quiet and know they are loved..... BULL!!!!!


    Children need to feel loved and no matter what parents working or not have to find the heart space to share the love they invoked when they brought them into being.


    Surely this question should be re-titled into the non PC when parents who work can't cope with the children they CHOSE to bring into the world what should they do?





    PRIORITISE!!!!!


    children 1st, 2nd and last. Otherwise when they're messed up adults what on earth was the point to working for that money????






    Balancing a career and children can be a definite ';high wire act';. You've got to understand that there simply must be ';me'; time involved in this mixture for your own mental health and stability. Without it, it will not be long before the pressures will become too much and things will start unravelling in a hurry.


    There is, somewhere in your ';favorite things'; list, a special interest that gives you a genuine lift. It may be reading, it could be listening to music, or watching a play at the local theater. Whatever this thing is... THIS is what you need to make time for at least on an occasional basis. Make arrangements for the kids at some special thing for this time and ';pull away'; for YOUR TIME. This is certain to have a major effect on your ability to come back to center much stronger and, will give you a major something to look forward to as you go through your normal routines of... work, kids, work, kids... etc... It will be a great deal better, believe me !





    Hope this gives you a spark with which to start your own flames !





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    The best thing i found is always just take 45 minutes to an hour after they've gone to bed and just relax in the bath with a book.





    Other things that help are having friend who dont mind you letting off a bit of steam when you need to whinge
    adoption! run away to the circus!
    You need to take a nice bath, go to a spa and just have time for yourself.
    I was a working single-parent for 18 years - very little relieves stress - even child-minders can add to stress...





    Only thing that worked was to scream and shout when I was on my own and no-one could hear me.





    I could say everything I needed to get out of my system knowing it wouldn't hurt or upset anybody.





    The relief is felt instantly!
    sounds like time is not on your side - but here's a suggestion of what I do when I'm stressed and cranky:





    When at work, on my lunchtime, I find a park or quiet place to sit, and just watch the clouds, and do some deep breathing. ( having a lunch break is the most important thing!)





    Or when I get home, I take the long way around my small garden to the front door, I look at the new shoot on my plants, smell the newly budded flowers. Enjoy the space that is my home.





    Another thing my parents did - was to put us kids on household duties as soon as we were responsible enough. We did dishes, mopped floors and scrubbed showers whilst mum would be sleeping in or reading a mag. (Although my dad did need to install some fear in us first - ';do the dishes or NO TV!!)





    Or cranking a stereo with your favourite song and sing a the top of your lungs. This can be done whilst driving those demanding kids around. OR in the shower.





    Good luck...



    30 minutes to yourself





    Take a bubble bath
    Meditation works for me. Or just find some time for yourself doing something you like
    Hi,





    A cellar or a lockable cupboard is the answer, you then have three choices.





    1. Put the kids in one or the other and lock the door for a couple of hours.





    2. Get a bottle of Gin and lock yourself in either for a couple of hours.





    3. Buy two bottles of Gin, forget the kids, just get drunk where you stand.





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    Added for the politically correct.





    But, don't forget to leave a supervising, responsible adult with the kids wherever they are.





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    making sure you take time out for yourself... whether it be a bottle of whiskey (!) or maybe walking the dog..
    schedule


    -exercise every other day


    -relaxation eg. yoga, meditation, soothing music, deep breathing, rel. tapes, baths,


    -teach children to be independent


    -me time


    -find out your passions


    -break from children


    -time with friends



    When you find out let me know... ha





    No, really I have struggled like others with this same situation.





    I have found the best thing to do is find time for ourselves...





    I didn't think I liked to read but really I just never found the time to read.


    A warm bubble bath with a candle glowing


    A good brisk walk


    And a glass of wine to unwind from time to time


    You also need to be able to say ';no'; without feeling guilty





    Good luck





    I hope you find some peace and comfort this Holiday Season...



    Only you know what helps YOU to relax most. Two things i would suggest is a set bed time for the kids .. that way you can have the kids in bed by, say, 8:30 no excuses (except for Charlie Brown Christmas TV special night lol) so that you KNOW you have a set time for YOU every day.


    And what makes me feel fresh and stress free .. is a nice swim. Make arrangements for dad to stay w/ kids or to have a sitter so you can go out once a week .. head to the Y where they have evening family swim hours .. and just Dive into the water .. coming up again is just so refreshing. And a dive from top to bottom .. surfacing by doing somersaults back up to the surface (this is done most easily with a face mask!) is THE most relaxing thing in the world to me .. you feel invigorated .. weightless .. and in a world all your own. Float around letting your ears sink just beneath the surface so you cant make out anything at all except your own thoughts. Do a couple of laps.


    Come home and have 2 glasses of wine .. you'll sleep like a BABY yourself ! lol


    Give it a shot ! And good luck .. every busy mum deserves to find a way to just relax and let go .. at least once a week !! Take Care !
    Take a Holiday.
    There are lots of ways, and not every way would work for every person. I myself relax either through exercise, a long soak in the tub, a glass of wine or inner dialogue reminding myself that it's pointless to get stressed. Some people also use meditation, but I just don't get into that very well.
    This works for me - ask yourself if you would be happier without the children in your life. If the answer is no then it usually puts all things in perspective and reduces the stress.





    Some days cleaning urine off the floor everytime I walk into the bathroom makes me ask that question. Each time I decide that I would rather have my kids and happily clean the urine.

    Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?

    Baby Bjorn





    Active-The red and black one.





    I got it for my hubby, but I use it all the time! Way easier than carrying her with my arms, and I feel no back pain at all with it on.Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?
    DO NOT...I repeat, DO NOT get a Baby Bjorn. Anyone who thinks it is good for your back is mistaken. It nearly cracked me in half and I am tall (5'8';)...can't imagine if I were petite trying to use it. By the time my child was 16 pounds, I couldn't take it anymore. Not to mention, it is an unhealthy position for your baby's hips to be pulled apart like that when they are newborn. And your baby should always be facing you.





    After misery with the Bjorn, I ended up buying a well-padded ring-sling (from www.slingbaby.com) and I still use it now that my child is 25 pounds. He can sit on my hip with the sling and it's great. But... the sling puts uneven weight on one side of your body, so it's still not the best for your back.





    I WISH I had bought an Ergo baby carrier. It is probably the best for you back. The weight is distributed across your HIPS. And you can wear you baby either in front of you or in back. There's also an infant insert for newborns that won't pull their legs apart.





    Go to http://ergobabycarrier.com/





    You can see the different videos on how it works and the different ways to wear it. It will last you until your child is 3.





    It's one of the more popular styles of true ';baby wearers'; too.Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?
    The Ergo, Sutemi and MayaTai are your best bets for good back support and long term use. They hold infants AND toddlers and are great for an aching mama back!





    My son is 2.5 and still goes happily in the Ergo sometimes. and I have a messed up back, but it NEVER causes discomfort.





    I would NOT get a Bjorn or snuggli, those have your baby dangling by his/her crotch and are bad for spinal development.
    I love my sling from http://www.slingezee.com/ and I love it. It is padded and very comfortable. I love how I can ';wear'; my baby in so many different positions as well. It comes with an instructional DVD that is very helpful. I wear my son in this a lot, he is 14.13 lbs and I have not had back problems yet.





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    Evin is right that the Moby wraps are great also. I would love to have one of those too. I still love mine but my sister has 3 and one of hers is the Moby style. She loves it.
    Baby bjorn is good if you plan on only using it while your baby is an infant.But I would recomend the ERGO for all ages!!I garantee you,you will fall in love with this carrier from day one!!You can use it comfortably until your child is 3 yrs. old!!!
    Personally, I didn't like the bjorn, bauer or snuggli type carriers, even with the lumbar support. It just wasn't comfortable on my back at all. The position of the baby wasn't good and they carrier wasn't adjustable enough to ever be comfortable for me. I also wasn't a big fan of the one-shoulder slings for anything longer than a quick up and down (like walking from the playground to the car or something)





    I found the most comfort and versatility in the Moby-style wraps. They're completely adjustable to your body type, and you can even make your own without any home-ec prowess whatsoever. I followed the no-sew instructions on http://www.wearyourbaby.com





    If you have a good baby boutique, go try several and see what works for you, different bodies, different needs, you know. Hope you find a carrier that works for you!

    Iowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?

    The mother is awarded custody of the children. At what age can the child decide to reside with the fatherIowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?
    A Child's Choice: What Is The Right Age For A Child To Choose Which Parent To Live With?


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    They can be told that the children need to remain in the home and each parent can live there for three weeks, than switch. Once a week the parent not in residence takes the children out to dinner. While in the home, the parent does not date or have overnight guests, other than relatives.





    On the off weeks, the parent rents a room, stays with relatives or friends, or they can split the cost of a one bedroom apartment that they share. The priority here is the children not having their lives disrupted by the choices of the parents. The parents' lives are equally disrupted and they split the cost of being in the home. If child support is ordered, both parents can pay into a trust fund that pays out to cover the children鈥檚 expenses. Anything over and above those expenses remains there to collect interest and goes toward a college education.





    When the children are grown, and completely out of the home, than the property can be sold or whatever the parents want to do with it.





    This is called Bird Nest Custody. The children remain in the nest and the bird take turns being there.





    http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoiceIowa law re child custody/ at what age can a child decide which parent she resides with?
    You need to talk to legal aid and/or an attorney about this. It is better to get information from a source who is actually there, knows the state law and your specific case and can advise you accordingly.
    In most areas the judge will consider where the child wants to live at the age of 12. That doesn't mean it's completely up to the child though. The judge will look at the entire picture.

    Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?

    I think its the hardest thing ive ever done and he is now 13 months and im still waiting for the day i can relax and just enjoy him. He is unwell at the moment and i really hate to see him this way it just breaks my heart. I also think having kids puts a huge stress on your relationships. Please tell me im not alone?Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?
    yes and no... i guess yes because i always had a way with kids... they always loved me and i could get them from tantrum to laughing and happy and distracted in 2 seconds... so with my own i thought id be the best mommy in the world and he would never be upset or have tantrums.. HA!!! I was so wrong. if anything, he knows me better than anyone and knows how i will react and tests me with so many different things...





    ive found myself losing my patience with him and was like OMG what am i doing?!!? but its hard... especially when they try to play in the toilet or stick his fingers in the electrical socket and when i pull him away or tap his hand away from it, he LAUGHS at me and goes back to do it again... hes 16 months old and in the ER about 5 times now bc of all the accidents and scares hes given me!!!





    so yes its harder. plus i didnt expect to be a SAHM so long, and not ever having a break from him makes it hard to notice the small things sometimes - but i've really been consciously reminding myself how fast he grows.. and i think by the month tho it gets a little more fun and a little less hard. the 2nd year, to me, is the hardest. but you'll see in a couple months, it'll get more fun and you'll start to enjoy it more i hope!!





    i hope your little one feels better!! i hate when theyre sick too because they cant tell you whats wrong! try giving him some tylenol. and yes, my husband and i never had that 'alone/ honeymoon' time ... dylan came way too fast! and he sleeps in our bed, (or the lack thereof because he DOESNT sleep lol)... but definitely a good form of birth control! :)





    you'll be okay. just enjoy it!! listen to there goes my life.. its by phil vassar i think... and listen to terri clark she didnt have time :)Have you found being a parent harder than you expected?
    You are so not alone, I have a 4m old and a 19m old and i def have days were i look at at myself and wonder ';What was i thinking'; ';How am I supposed to be a mom';. The stress and low points just seem to disappear when your kids face lights up when they see you or they laugh so hard that you have no choice but to laugh along. There is no JOB like being a mom But id chose being a mom over any other job a hundred times over. As for your relationship it can suffer sometimes just try to take time away from being a mom for just a moment whenever possible and just focus on you and your partner go out for a nice dinner and talk about anything OTHER than your baby and try to remember what brought you two together in the beginning. don't stress to much one day you will wake up and realize that every thing has fallen in to place.
    Actually being a parent is easier than i thought it was gonna be, but i have a fairly easy laid back lil guy, who has done everything early lol (he's 15 months old but acts more like he's 3).





    Course some days are harder than others (like a few days ago when he was in alotta pain cuz he was teething)





    I'm sure though once my twin boys are born (I'm 24 weeks, 5 days pregnant right now, Sept. 21st), things will prolly get harder, but yea i really though being a parent would be alot tougher than it is, not saying it's not tough, it's just not as tough as i thought it would be.





    Hope this helps, :D.





    I think it def. can put alotta stress on relationships, but so far it's made my boyfriend and i alot closer, he's a wonderful daddy, and does as much as he can to help me out.
    Having my daughter has come with a lot of sacrifices but I do not have any regrets. She puts a smile on my face everyday and makes it worthwhile. Actually, I look back and wonder what I did with all that ';free time'; I no longer have! I wouldn't say it is harder than what I thought...I think it is more enjoyable than I thought. It really filled a void I never knew I had.





    There are a lot of challenges being a parent. I think every parent needs to maintain different aspects of their lives by setting aside: parent time, adult time, alone time, couple time and so on. If not it is easy to loose yourself and become miserable.





    It definitely gets easier the older they get. Especially if you keep your child on a strict routine. Having a good support system is really nice, too.
    I think it changes relationships BIG TIME. I expected my husband to be a certain kind of father, especially after being around my father in law so much. He was great with the kids, but didn't help me do anything like changing diapers, feeding, bathing, etc. He just plays with them. I was very disappointed for a long time. I also didn't expect for him to be..... so unsupportive with some things. His attitude is ';you stay home all day long, it should be easy';. It's very upsetting and hurt full to know the man you've loved for so many years really thinks I just sit at home playing with the 2 kids and it's so easy.





    It does get easier, I promise. Once he starts really talking and interacting with you, it's a lot of fun. Ethan is 2 1/2 now and makes me laugh so many times a day. Sophie is almost 11 months and even she's getting to be more fun. Just hang in there. Start finding some moms in your area you can talk/hang out with. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten on here and gotten the support and the advice and the motivation I've needed to keep going. Email me anytime you need to talk, vent, or need that extra encouragement!
    Its hard, v hard. There is not a moments rest with our 13 month old. Something we didnt bank on was clashing with our partner over the correct way to bring her up. We argue right down to what food we give the baby. I want ultra healthy everything, and my partner likes to give her things she likes. I only realise now how different we are in what we want for our children even though we seemed well suited before she arrived. But she is my little girl, and I will have to struggle through it. I agree there is tremendous strain on a relationship.
    You are not alone. I had the worse pregnancy but it was nothing until my daughter arrived. It's difficult but it's best to take one day at a time and take lot of photos so you can remember him the way he was.
    Yes it is harder than i expected but i knew it wasnt going to be a breeze! i still enjoy my son even though he needs all the attention i can give him and i just relax when hes sleeping*
    I'm not a parent (child-free by choice) but my sister-in-law had two babies within 14 months of each other and gets stressed out a lot.
    Its the hardest task Ive ever taken on. But its also the most rewarding.

    If one parent has sole custody, & the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?

    if one parent gets sole custody of the child in the divorce %26amp; the other has supervised visits only (all due to a drug problem) and the parents end up getting back together (after the drug abuser is in recovery %26amp; meeting the terms of visitation) would it change the terms of custody at all? (in oregon, if that matters).





    would it make any difference to custody if they were (A) together but not married nor living together (B) living together but NOT married (C) re-married?If one parent has sole custody, %26amp; the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?
    No. In order to change that, you will need to appear both in court again. Only a Judge can change that ruling.If one parent has sole custody, %26amp; the parents get back together does it change the custody at all?
    I'm not a professional in that area but I would think that if they were just together or even just living together that the custody would not change however if the couple got re-married than more than likely the custody terms would change.
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  • What's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?

    Take a Holiday.What's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?
    Meditation works for me. Or just find some time for yourself doing something you likeWhat's the best way of reducing stress when you're a working parent with demanding children?
    For yourselves work for top rated companies whose management treat staff with respect and professionally. If possible arrange for working flexible hours or work one day a week at home. This ways you can be less stressful and have more time with you children.
    time out for yourself can any one you know look after your kids while you have a couple of days to your self.%26lt;sounds good doesnt it %26gt;
    Only you know what helps YOU to relax most. Two things i would suggest is a set bed time for the kids .. that way you can have the kids in bed by, say, 8:30 no excuses (except for Charlie Brown Christmas TV special night lol) so that you KNOW you have a set time for YOU every day.


    And what makes me feel fresh and stress free .. is a nice swim. Make arrangements for dad to stay w/ kids or to have a sitter so you can go out once a week .. head to the Y where they have evening family swim hours .. and just Dive into the water .. coming up again is just so refreshing. And a dive from top to bottom .. surfacing by doing somersaults back up to the surface (this is done most easily with a face mask!) is THE most relaxing thing in the world to me .. you feel invigorated .. weightless .. and in a world all your own. Float around letting your ears sink just beneath the surface so you cant make out anything at all except your own thoughts. Do a couple of laps.


    Come home and have 2 glasses of wine .. you'll sleep like a BABY yourself ! lol


    Give it a shot ! And good luck .. every busy mum deserves to find a way to just relax and let go .. at least once a week !! Take Care !
    try these very helpful tips about handling stress at work:





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    Hi,





    A cellar or a lockable cupboard is the answer, you then have three choices.





    1. Put the kids in one or the other and lock the door for a couple of hours.





    2. Get a bottle of Gin and lock yourself in either for a couple of hours.





    3. Buy two bottles of Gin, forget the kids, just get drunk where you stand.





    Skip





    Added for the politically correct.





    But, don't forget to leave a supervising, responsible adult with the kids wherever they are.





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    30 minutes to yourself





    Take a bubble bath
    When you find out let me know... ha





    No, really I have struggled like others with this same situation.





    I have found the best thing to do is find time for ourselves...





    I didn't think I liked to read but really I just never found the time to read.


    A warm bubble bath with a candle glowing


    A good brisk walk


    And a glass of wine to unwind from time to time


    You also need to be able to say ';no'; without feeling guilty





    Good luck





    I hope you find some peace and comfort this Holiday Season...



    Have them adopted.
    Having PROPER AFFORDABLE childcare. All childcare these days are so expensive. I've looked into it so many times and it's not worth me working AND paying for childcare. All my salary would just go onto the childcare.





    Companies having creche facilities or being more parent-child friendly would be really beneficial. Being able to work around school hours. Work from home at other times.





    Most of that would take a huge weight off my shoulders and I would be far less stressed
    making sure you take time out for yourself... whether it be a bottle of whiskey (!) or maybe walking the dog..
    I was a working single-parent for 18 years - very little relieves stress - even child-minders can add to stress...





    Only thing that worked was to scream and shout when I was on my own and no-one could hear me.





    I could say everything I needed to get out of my system knowing it wouldn't hurt or upset anybody.





    The relief is felt instantly!
    You need to take a nice bath, go to a spa and just have time for yourself.
    The best thing i found is always just take 45 minutes to an hour after they've gone to bed and just relax in the bath with a book.





    Other things that help are having friend who dont mind you letting off a bit of steam when you need to whinge
    sounds like time is not on your side - but here's a suggestion of what I do when I'm stressed and cranky:





    When at work, on my lunchtime, I find a park or quiet place to sit, and just watch the clouds, and do some deep breathing. ( having a lunch break is the most important thing!)





    Or when I get home, I take the long way around my small garden to the front door, I look at the new shoot on my plants, smell the newly budded flowers. Enjoy the space that is my home.





    Another thing my parents did - was to put us kids on household duties as soon as we were responsible enough. We did dishes, mopped floors and scrubbed showers whilst mum would be sleeping in or reading a mag. (Although my dad did need to install some fear in us first - ';do the dishes or NO TV!!)





    Or cranking a stereo with your favourite song and sing a the top of your lungs. This can be done whilst driving those demanding kids around. OR in the shower.





    Good luck...



    when will people realise that children are demanding because they are meant to be so, they need the whys of the world and physical activity not tio mention the loving guidance of their parents, the one safe place children are *supposed* to have. Yet they are slammed from breakfast club to school to afterschool club and then when their over-worked under-paid parents are so mentally tired they think their kids should be nice and quiet and know they are loved..... BULL!!!!!


    Children need to feel loved and no matter what parents working or not have to find the heart space to share the love they invoked when they brought them into being.


    Surely this question should be re-titled into the non PC when parents who work can't cope with the children they CHOSE to bring into the world what should they do?





    PRIORITISE!!!!!


    children 1st, 2nd and last. Otherwise when they're messed up adults what on earth was the point to working for that money????






    There are lots of ways, and not every way would work for every person. I myself relax either through exercise, a long soak in the tub, a glass of wine or inner dialogue reminding myself that it's pointless to get stressed. Some people also use meditation, but I just don't get into that very well.
    Protected sex.
    Decide that you WANT to enjoy your children. I'm not saying that you don't, but it is easy to get wrapped up in the pressures of job, personal finances, etc., that we sometimes forget what is really important. It will take a conscious effort on your part. You will miss the chaos someday.





    First of all, when you leave work.......leave work. Don't be worried about projects you have to do at work once you get home. Worrying about downsizing and layoffs won't prevent them from happening, but it will prevent you from enjoying your life. You were looking for a job when you found the one you have.





    Try to plan out in advance what meals you'll be serving for dinner. If possible, cook a little extra on the weekends for the freezer so that you have just a little preparation for dinner on busy nights. There's also nothing wrong with having canned soup and crackers for dinner sometimes. There's also nothing wrong with having a bowl of cereal and some fruit for dinner, either. Leave the dishes until they've went to bed.





    Talk to your kids about their day; help with their homework. Leave the housework. Have a relaxing evening with the kids and concentrate on them. Put them to bed around 8:30 or 9:00 (no exceptions). If you've spent most of the evening with them, they most likely won't be making excuses to stay up later (wanting to spend some time with you). After they go to bed, pick up for an hour--you will get more done in this hour than in 3 hours trying to split the time with the kids; take a shower; read or watch some tv until your bedtime.





    In the mornings, get up a little before the kids and shower and get ready before waking them up. On the weekends, I make extra pancakes and store in the freezer between pieces of wax paper and microwave for a quick breakfast.....they taste just a good and it saves a lot of time.





    If you are feeling particularly stressed, tell the kids that you aren't feeling well and go lay down on your bed in the silence of your room for an hour. You will feel refreshed when you emerge. The kids will be okay eating a snack and watching some tv.





    Do your bill paying on your lunch break so that you don't have to do it at home.





    Keep a calendar with the kids activities written on it so that you don't lose track. It's okay to make a plan with another parent that you trust to do some carpooling so that you aren't constantly picking up a child from practice.
    Get a baby sitter, go out (for yourself) do what you want to do,for about an hour,or take a long bubble bath,(if there's a husband in the home) give the kids to him and leave,go for a long drive,to the store, window shop,walk around in the mall, get you something to eat, sit down relax,walk and see the all the Christmas lights,go to a park watch the boats go down the river,be somewhere by yourself(quiet time)pray to God to relieve your stress and be able to cope with your loving children that God saw fit to give you,just give yourself your deserved time alone, so you can enjoy your life the way God wants you to! Merry Christmas %26amp; aHappy New Year!But alcohol won't fix anything it usually messes it up!
    Time to yourself is the most important thing.. do something that yoy enjoy.
    I agree with the first answer - alcohol does it for me!
    adoption! run away to the circus!
    Take a ';mental health'; day off with kids in school and sleep in, go on a walk and just relax.





    Trade babysitting with a friend. One night of peace is good even if you have to trade it in for another night of loud noise.





    Create a sanctuary in your bedroom. Buy nice bedding, nice candles, curtains and keep it clean. That way you can always feel like you are walking into a hotel room.





    Invest in some ear plugs and take a ';quiet bath'; with epsom salts. Play soothing music to drown out your family.





    Have grandma watch the kids while you and your husband or partner have a night on the town. Get a hotel room and go see a movie in the city. Get some books are read during your down time.





    Start a gratitude journal and make yourself sit down and write in in for 15 min each day. If you have nothing to write then sit in your chair in silence





    Get audio books for the car. everyone has to be quiet while the story is playing.
    make time for yourself. If your children are young sent them to a day care a few times a week. That will give you some time to yourself. If that's not possible, lock yourself in the bathroom and take a bubble bath.
    Balancing a career and children can be a definite ';high wire act';. You've got to understand that there simply must be ';me'; time involved in this mixture for your own mental health and stability. Without it, it will not be long before the pressures will become too much and things will start unravelling in a hurry.


    There is, somewhere in your ';favorite things'; list, a special interest that gives you a genuine lift. It may be reading, it could be listening to music, or watching a play at the local theater. Whatever this thing is... THIS is what you need to make time for at least on an occasional basis. Make arrangements for the kids at some special thing for this time and ';pull away'; for YOUR TIME. This is certain to have a major effect on your ability to come back to center much stronger and, will give you a major something to look forward to as you go through your normal routines of... work, kids, work, kids... etc... It will be a great deal better, believe me !





    Hope this gives you a spark with which to start your own flames !





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    This works for me - ask yourself if you would be happier without the children in your life. If the answer is no then it usually puts all things in perspective and reduces the stress.





    Some days cleaning urine off the floor everytime I walk into the bathroom makes me ask that question. Each time I decide that I would rather have my kids and happily clean the urine.
    schedule


    -exercise every other day


    -relaxation eg. yoga, meditation, soothing music, deep breathing, rel. tapes, baths,


    -teach children to be independent


    -me time


    -find out your passions


    -break from children


    -time with friends

    How do you tell your parent you are moving out?

    I am 19, and I currently pay for about half of the rent. But I get treated like I don't deserve any of the apartment to myself at any time(friends over, girlfriend, etc.).





    I don't want to leave my mom hanging out on a financial limb, but I need to get out.





    How should I talk to my mom about this? I just dont want to screw her over financially. And how much notice should I give her? one week? one month?How do you tell your parent you are moving out?
    Well if you are old enough to move out than you are old enough to just sit down and tell mom what you are doing.





    I think that you should give her at least 1 month.How do you tell your parent you are moving out?
    Some parents do not want their offspring to fledge. The best way to tell her is by using words, carefully selected words. This is your mother you're talking about so give her as much time as possible. You will know if she is stringing you along or really trying. Her actions will dictate your next words.
    dude i'm totally in the same situation i'm 18.......and i'm moving out in january.i'm thinking of telling them when i've already found a place and paid for it.seems like the best thing i can come up with.i'm totally screwed cos it seems heart breaking any way.........
    Just sit down and talk to her. Tell her your feelings about things and your plans. You are going to fly the nest sooner or later. It's going to happne one day, so!

    Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?

    Baby Bjorn





    Active-The red and black one.





    I got it for my hubby, but I use it all the time! Way easier than carrying her with my arms, and I feel no back pain at all with it on.Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?
    DO NOT...I repeat, DO NOT get a Baby Bjorn. Anyone who thinks it is good for your back is mistaken. It nearly cracked me in half and I am tall (5'8';)...can't imagine if I were petite trying to use it. By the time my child was 16 pounds, I couldn't take it anymore. Not to mention, it is an unhealthy position for your baby's hips to be pulled apart like that when they are newborn. And your baby should always be facing you.





    After misery with the Bjorn, I ended up buying a well-padded ring-sling (from www.slingbaby.com) and I still use it now that my child is 25 pounds. He can sit on my hip with the sling and it's great. But... the sling puts uneven weight on one side of your body, so it's still not the best for your back.





    I WISH I had bought an Ergo baby carrier. It is probably the best for you back. The weight is distributed across your HIPS. And you can wear you baby either in front of you or in back. There's also an infant insert for newborns that won't pull their legs apart.





    Go to http://ergobabycarrier.com/





    You can see the different videos on how it works and the different ways to wear it. It will last you until your child is 3.





    It's one of the more popular styles of true ';baby wearers'; too.Can someone tell me which baby carrier offers good back support for the parent?
    The Ergo, Sutemi and MayaTai are your best bets for good back support and long term use. They hold infants AND toddlers and are great for an aching mama back!





    My son is 2.5 and still goes happily in the Ergo sometimes. and I have a messed up back, but it NEVER causes discomfort.





    I would NOT get a Bjorn or snuggli, those have your baby dangling by his/her crotch and are bad for spinal development.
    I love my sling from http://www.slingezee.com/ and I love it. It is padded and very comfortable. I love how I can ';wear'; my baby in so many different positions as well. It comes with an instructional DVD that is very helpful. I wear my son in this a lot, he is 14.13 lbs and I have not had back problems yet.





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    Evin is right that the Moby wraps are great also. I would love to have one of those too. I still love mine but my sister has 3 and one of hers is the Moby style. She loves it.
    Baby bjorn is good if you plan on only using it while your baby is an infant.But I would recomend the ERGO for all ages!!I garantee you,you will fall in love with this carrier from day one!!You can use it comfortably until your child is 3 yrs. old!!!
    Personally, I didn't like the bjorn, bauer or snuggli type carriers, even with the lumbar support. It just wasn't comfortable on my back at all. The position of the baby wasn't good and they carrier wasn't adjustable enough to ever be comfortable for me. I also wasn't a big fan of the one-shoulder slings for anything longer than a quick up and down (like walking from the playground to the car or something)





    I found the most comfort and versatility in the Moby-style wraps. They're completely adjustable to your body type, and you can even make your own without any home-ec prowess whatsoever. I followed the no-sew instructions on http://www.wearyourbaby.com





    If you have a good baby boutique, go try several and see what works for you, different bodies, different needs, you know. Hope you find a carrier that works for you!

    What are you getting your parent(s) for x-mas?

    What have you gotten or planning on getting your parent(s) for Christmas???What are you getting your parent(s) for x-mas?
    Mom has got a dvd %26amp; a family organiser ((she wanted one))





    Dad has got some coffe for junkies (lol its extra strong so thats what it said on the packet)) %26amp; a hammer %26amp; some toffeeWhat are you getting your parent(s) for x-mas?
    nothing. My parents are retired and our whole family decided years ago it wasn't worth the hassle of exchanging gifts. If there is something we want or need, we buy it ourselves....same with the parents.





    EDIT: Funny! Who's the dumb twit who gave me a thumbs down because my parents would rather not piss with the whole gift giving thing in their old age? Cracks me up.....
    Father is getting an indian recipe book and some spices





    Mother is getting an embroidered shawl she chose herself (seriously expensive so I am glad I already paid for it while I had cash!).
    I'll make my mom a card and buy her a present with my christmas money from relatives. I'll probably get her some shoes. I know she wants that.
    I won tickets to a gospel concert on a radio station so that's her present..
    dad: home depot gift card


    mom: personalized ornament
    dad, notheing, mom dont know yet.
    a strap on dildo and a condom so they can space dock

    What type of reproduction is it called when one parent produces offspring that is an exact copy of the parent?

    Asexual reproduction.

    How do you convine your parent to get a pet that you really want???????????????

    How to Show Your Parents You Are Responsible Enough to Own a Pet:





    Feeding is a daily responsibility.





    A lot of children have a dream to own a special pet, but many parents do not allow them to because they think that their child is not responsible enough.





    Don't give up though - all you need to do is to show that you are responsible and mature enough by following these suggested tips.





    Steps...


    Be honest with yourself.


    Are you responsible enough?


    Consider these questions and answer them truthfully:








    Are you ready to feed, brush, pet, clean, bathe, play with the pet on a regular basis?


    Are you ready to clean out their cage, bed, living area etc. regularly?


    Many pets need daily cleanup to keep odors manageable.


    If smells get too strong parents can get angry and might give you a punishment.


    Do you have too many other commitments that might prevent you from having a pet and looking after it properly?


    Think about sports, after-school activities, weekend homework, etc.


    Research the animal you think you want (try your local library or the internet).


    Write down what you learn.


    This will prepare you care for the animal, help you choose the right animal, and demonstrate to your parents that you know what is involved.


    What different kinds are there?


    What are they like?


    How long do they live?


    How messy are they?


    What sort of care do they require?


    Don't forget the good parts. Are they affectionate?


    Can they be trained to do tricks?


    Can the whole family enjoy their company?


    Make a list of things you will do to care for the pet.


    Show this to your parents to demonstrate that you are ready, and see what they think about letting you have this animal.


    Buy a small soft toy in the shape of whatever pet you want.


    It may sound strange, but it will help.


    Care for it and pretend it is real for however long you want to (it will show your parents that you have patience).


    Don't keep asking if you can have a pet yet; just show that you are caring about the toy.


    Some people are quite happy with the soft toy and may not even want a pet anymore and some may think it is too much work and give up altogether.


    If you still want a pet, proceed to the next step.


    Start off small.


    Show your parents what you have done with your soft toy and if they approve, then politely ask them to buy you a fish.


    The aim is to start small, then work up.


    A fish doesn't smell and doesn't make noises.


    You only have to feed it and change the water regularly.


    If your parents still do not agree, then ask for sea monkeys. They are cheap and you only need to feed them.


    Progress to larger animals.


    After your parents have seen how you look after your small pets, slowly move onto the bigger, more high-maintenance animals.


    If you only want a mouse, this will not take long, but if you want a dog then it will take longer.


    Tell your parents about friends who have pets.


    Don't overdo this, in case they think that your only reason for wanting a pet is because a friend has one.


    Do use it show that someone your own age is already caring well for a pet.


    If you are someone in your family is allergic to dogs, look into getting a dog that does not shed much (make sure the allergic family member has a chance to meet the pet before you take it home), or choose a different animal.


    Perhaps a cat, bird, tarantula, or fish might be easier on the sinuses.


    Many of these creatures also require less space and care than a dog.





    Tips...


    If your parents do not let you have a pet, don't throw a tantrum or beg incessantly.


    It will not help at all.


    Accept the fact that they say no at this point in time and be patient.


    Do extra chores around the house to get extra cash.


    Ask again in a few months and show them that you have earned the money to pay for the pet and its supplies.


    This will definitely impress them!


    Or wait until you are older.


    If your family already owns a pet, show that you can care for it.


    On a regular basis, fill its water bowl, clean out its sleeping area, tidy its play things and ask if you can help feed it.


    All of these demonstrate that you can care for a pet.


    Be patient with your parents - they do love you.


    It may not be that your parents don't think you are responsible enough, but that they do not like pets or they don't feel they have have the room or time.


    In this case, put on a smile and wait until you grow up, when you are the boss of the house.


    You may then choose a pet.


    If you are looking for a dog or cat, research local animal shelters.


    (Petfinder.com is a good website to find pets in your area that are for adoption.)


    This will show your parents that you are thinking beyond just what you want, but also thinking about how you can help an animal and the community.


    Adopting a pet saves an animal who needs a home and family.


    Also, adoption fees are frequently low and include vet fees and other expenses.


    Watch Animal Planet and other animal shows to learn more about animals.


    Tell your parents the things you have learned about animals.


    Ask your parents if you can foster care for the kind of animal you want or another animal.


    When they see you taking care of it they might agree that you are ready or not.


    If you enjoy computer games or toys, try a Tamagotchi or join Neopets or Club Penguin and take care of virtual pets until you are able to have a real pet of your own.


    If you're old enough, see if you can volunteer at an an animal shelter or pet-sit for neighbors' critters while they are on vacation.


    These are both good ways to spend time with animals while you are waiting, and they will help you demonstrate your commitment and responsibility.


    Pet sitting or dog walking could even earn you a little spending money.


    Go and help out at a shelter to show your parents you are responsible.


    If you get the pet you've been trying to get, follow through with your promises.


    Sometimes that pet may not work out, but if you're responsible with it then your parents may let you get another.





    Warnings...


    Sometimes the reason you cannot have a pet (like a dog or cat) is not because you are not responsible.


    Sometimes members of your family my have allergies that will cause extreme discomfort.


    Keep in mind that some people have trouble with the idea of mice, rats, insects, and reptiles as pets.


    If you run into a problem like this, consider choosing a different animal.


    If you want a pet, look after it properly, treat it the way you would like to be treated.


    Pets are a lot of work.


    Make sure that you are prepared to own one.


    Are you ready to devote lots of money and time to your pet?


    If not, then maybe it's time to reconsider.


    Pets requiring a huge investment of time and money include: St Bernard dog, horse, pony, poisonous snake/spider.


    Be realistic about these sorts of pets and perhaps reconsider your desire for such a pet and change to one that is less expensive and is low maintenance.


    Never get a pet without your parent's consent and knowledge.


    Not only will this have them distrusting you (and you will get found out if you're trying to hide it) but they may be disinclined to let you have a pet in the future.





    Hope it Helped!How do you convine your parent to get a pet that you really want???????????????
    You can't - sorry to say but the truth of the matter is, if they don't want to spend their money on something you want then they don't have to. Instead, why don't you get yourself a job and save up some money for a pet (and college) then ask when YOU can help out with the costly vet bills and initial fees?How do you convine your parent to get a pet that you really want???????????????
    Prove to them that you are responsible enough and dedicated enough to take care of an animal. I agree, they aren't play toys. You cant think its cute for a week then loose interest. Research the animal, see if you have what it takes. Understand that If you get a dog- its probably going to be with you for the next 12-14 years. Start by doing some chores around the house on a consistent basis. If they still wont let you- I suggest volunteering at an animal shelter. Then you get to have interaction with animals and help out at the same time. Good luck!
    You could refer them to these sites, maybe...





    Try these websites. They have questionaires that will help you find the perfect breed.





    http://www3.dogbreedinfo.com/search.htm





    http://www.selectsmart.com/DOG/





    http://animal.discovery.com/breedselector/dogselectorindex.do



    spend more time studying, learn how to spell and they might believe that you're responsible enough





    that being said, as a mother, my kids not convincing me of ANYTHING i don't want to do. Pets aren't toys
    All you do is beg until your on there last nerves. If that doesn't work you tell them how great it would be to have a new member to the family!
    You can't. Their house, Their rules.
    You start by RESEARCHING THIS QUESTION FIRST!!! There about a million other Q's just like this one.
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